Tip's for actually making habit change

How many times have we all said we were going to really "do it" this time, to find themselves defeated after even one day of doing it? You're not alone if you can resonate with that, and if you can't then congrats you are within like .00001% of the world. Many times a spark for some sort of change stems from some level of dissatisfaction or frustration. But please hold your horses, pause for a moment and think of something realistic over drastic.

Step one: figure out why there is some sort of frustration/disatisfaction. Where is this stemming from? For example: you may be having negative body image after scrolling on TikTok and seeing someone in a different body than yours, so then you chuck your phone and swear to never, ever, ever eat x,y and z again . Do you really dislike your body or did something just influence you in the moment to lose an unrealistic amount of weight? Or maybe you haven't been caring for your body the way you normally do and you are frustrated with yourself. But are there external factors causing this? Say you have been swamped with life and haven't done much other than "just survive". Realistic goals can help with all of these things. I love the idea of meeting yourself where you are at. Rather than punishing yourself for where you might not be.

Step two: on the front of meeting yourself where you are at, when you go to make some goals, I want you to start by asking yourself if you could imagine doing it for the rest of your life. Can you really imagine never eating carbs again? Could you really imagine exercising twice a day forever? And if you cannot imagine doing it as an older person, then why are you pushing yourself to do it now? YES, there absolutely can be circumstances, like training for a marathon etc. While you're thinking about it, do you even enjoy what you are setting your goal as? Do you enjoy waking up early to get a workout in before the sun comes up? Or are you forcing yourself to do it "in the name of health".

Step three: Now that you have thought about if you enjoy the goal, how achievable is it? For example, if you never floss and set a goal to floss everynight, its likely not achievable right away. Setting a goal of doing it 3 times a week for awhile is more achievable and then once you've mastered that then you can start tacking on more days realistically. Not to say you can't do more once you've started the goal...do you get where i'm coming from? Now if you are sedentary, and set a goal to exercise everyday of the week for the foreseeable future, you will most likely get burned out and then dissappointed when you're unable to reach that goal. This then ignites the never ending cycle. Feeling dissatisfied, creating unrealistic goals, fails at reaching them which leads to being dissatisifed all over again.

To wrap things up, figure out where these emotions are coming from. Allow them to be there but stay curious, question yourself. Then meet yourself where you are at, and expect to mess up. I always say it, but I will say it until i'm blue in the face: find comfort in the grey area. Last but certainly not least, keep setting goals no matter how many times you mess up or feel discouraged. Lean on those that support you and always stay realistic. If you need help, I know someone who runs a pretty awesome health coaching business...cough, cough, ME!

Reach out if you have any questions,

Love always, the messiest of hot mess moms,

Abby.

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