There's a time for everything

Something that has been weighing on me a lot as a newer mom and someone in their twenties, is that there IS a time for everything. We might get caught up wishing things were different or we wish we were further ahead in life. Whatever may be the case for you, I can assure you that there is a time for everything. I may be easily influenced and get jealous at times ,so I get caught up on wishing that I could have what people appear to have. What I have been doing lately is saying "I'm not in that era right now but that doesnt mean never".

I don't know about you, but I have been seeing so many beautiful, asethetically pleasing homes, with neutral colors and the people inside are flaunting their immaculate morning routines. I sit and wonder how they could possible get it done or who the hell is signing their checks? And why do I have random shit all over the kitchen floor? with

freaking "washable" marker everywhere? I sometimes wish my home could be what is flaunted all over the place, but I quickly remember how much I would MISS picking up tiny toddler socks from random places, finding pretty drawings on the walls, catching nothing short of the plague from having a toddler in daycare (this one is a joke) and SO much more. I could have a quiet, aesthetically pleasing home one day, but it's not the time for me right now. And I'm okay with that.

This is something that has emensly helped me "cope" with FOMO (fear of missing out) I guess you could call it. Being a twenty something in 2023 isn't easy and then adding parenthood and all to the mix makes it just a little bit more crazy. Have you ever heard of that old saying, "the grass is greener on the other side"? I truly beleive it will always be a relevant phrase. It is so easy to get caught up in what you don't have or what you don't get to do, especially with social media. Let's take a moment and realize what we DO have and how much we would miss it if it were gone.

I also want to make a note- it may seem like I complain a lot. I dont know, does it? The truth is, is that I am just a young mom, trying to make ends meet, trying to figure out who I am, trying to raise a strong, bright, insert every amazing adjective, daughter in this crazy world. I know I am not the only one who thinks it is freaking hard, and I know I am not the only one in the world who experiences FOMO or feels incredibly lonely at times while in the woes of adulthood/motherhood. (Let me tell you, even before I had a daughter, I experienced these feelings too- this isn't just something mothers experience). Another truth, is that while you may feel like you are the only one experiencing something, I can guarantee that you are not.

At the end of the day, I wouldn't trade my life for anyone else's. Trends change, people change, and seasons' change. Don't wish your time away, waiting for your "era". Embrace the one you are in, I know I will be.

Until next week,

I should probably go clean my kitchen floor,

Love Abby.

This Is a note I found that my mom had written, she passed away almost 10 years ago: I still have this hung up in my room as a reminder that there is a time for everything.It feels like im still able to get advice from her even though she is no longer here. (It looks like she quoted this from the Bible if you want to look further into it.)

https://www.esv.org/Ecclesiastes+3/